The Power of Empowering
The less we question and judge a woman’s decision the more we encourage and empower her to make them.
When you think about it, it wasn’t too long ago that women weren’t even allowed to make their own choices yet alone be celebrated for them. If that’s not a WTF moment then I don’t know what is.
But here’s the thing, it’s the 21st century so why is it that women are still being questioned and judged by the choices they make based on their own set of life’s circumstances. At every turn, every corner and every chapter of life their decisions are being questioned and judged as if they’re not the proper person to be making them. As if there is someone else who is better suited and more empowered to make them.
As women, the more we question or judge another woman’s decisions, the more we invalidate them.
Would we maybe make a different choice, maybe, but that’s the beauty of it, we can all make choices based on how we want to live, on what makes us happy and still support each other even though they’re not the same.
Women have been so conditioned into thinking that they’re either incapable of making the right decision or need approval and validation when they do. Often, also either used as a mode of comparison or a means of competition.
You’re the best person for the job! You don’t need a fact checker, you know the context of your life. You call the shots. Not based on a set of fictitious guidelines that were mostly created by men in a time where women’s roles were more defined by dealing with decisions rather than making them.
I want to live in a world where my daughter grows up feeling good about making her own choices, even if they’re not the ones I would make for her or they don’t turn out the way she wants, because there is no right or wrong decision or choice. We should always make the ones that’s best for us at that time.
So the next time a woman makes a decision, even one that may be different that the one you would’ve chosen, encourage her, support her, celebrate her but don’t question or judge her.